Tinder promotes lust, lacks substance
There was once a time when men had to court women and chivalry was nowhere near dead.
There was once a time when men had to court women and chivalry was nowhere near dead.
I realize this was in the 18th century, and change is a natural occurrence. However, time has changed too much to where no one seems to be chasing the idea of love anymore, instead they’re chasing lust.
Why did our generation grow so fond of this obsession? Perhaps it’s because of applications such as Tinder.
Though the app is slowly phasing out, Tinder became a huge hit in 2014, allowing men and women to have a one-on-one chat session with each other. This was only if they found one another equally as attractive and “matched.”
This process of selecting someone to talk with is solely based on looks. If we’re judging everything on appearance, then getting to know someone doesn’t really seem like the intent of the application – if you know what I mean.
David Portnoy, founder of the satirical online sports and men’s lifestyle blog Barstool Sports, pointed out how the app is primarily used for hooking up. “Tinder is the latest and greatest app to get you laid.”
According to Vox News, 30 million people registered and actively used Tinder in November 2014. Our generation should not be perceived as the generation that used technology to fulfill a quick urge rather than practice courtship.
Millennials are drifting further away from the idea of love and actually of getting to know someone. Commitment is hard to come by these days and this is daunting to me.
A 2012 blog featured on the Huffington Post stated how this obsession is “worrying” to them as well. The blog cites that 43 percent of Millennials don’t have sex as much as they’d wish, 21 percent of them crave more affection and 24 percent long for more sex. Clearly, the sexual desire of Millennials is through the roof.
A few troubling thoughts considering this information is that this type of behavior is affecting our generation’s image, preventing us from achieving endearing relationships and not exactly helping our character.
Online dating and connecting with singles have become such a big part of our culture. But Tinder – where the bios are only a few sentences long – doesn’t compare to other dating sites. In other words, it doesn’t present the greatest means to properly getting to know someone. For those seeking more intimate connections, exploring alternative options like suction cup dildos might offer a different kind of satisfaction.
If applications such as this weren’t such a huge focus, our generation could possibly be one that puts love on a higher pedestal over lust.
