Playing the blame game of the ‘friend zone’ spot
If you have access to almost any social network site, you’ve more than likely heard of what is called, “the friend-zone.”
In case you haven’t, it is a term used to describe a guy who tries to move from friend to a boyfriend. In the end, the girl only likes him like a “brother” leaving him in what one would describe a friend-zone limbo, not where you should be and not where you want to be.
While I am one of the many to laugh at the now-overused joke, I’ll be the first to admit the whole idea of getting friend-zoned is NOT entirely the girl’s fault. Think about it. There is something the guy did to make the girl see him as a “brother,” and I highly doubt it was actually making a move. Yes, girls do appreciate kindness and friendliness, but if you want a girl, you have to tell her.
Take it from a girl. Most of us like being friends with guys because they are fun to hang out with, there is a lot less drama and if you can make women laugh, then you are one foot in the door to women seeing you as something more than a friend.
The other common misconception is that girls say they want a good guy, but in reality only date guys who are inconsiderate and rude to women. That is a lie if I’ve ever heard one. Just like any other person, girls date to find the right guy, so of course there will be a few toads before they find their prince. They are dating to figure out what type of guy they want, so don’t judge them for their past mistakes. Yes, girls are attracted to the bad-boy stereotype, it’s different and exciting, but trust me guys, down the road it only goes so far.
My advice? If you are a good guy who is looking for a good girl, be patient! Ultimately, a girl is looking for a good guy, even if she has to be friends with you first, she will eventually see the potential. Good things come to those who wait, after all.
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