HEAD TO HEAD: Students discuss the reasons why chivalry is dead in relationships (Chris Moser)
Blame the technology
Chivalry is dead. Women killed it. Just kidding. Technology killed it. We have become a society built on social networking. We are living our lives on the Internet.
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According to debate.org a recent poll showed that 83 percent of people agree that social media has made us less social. We do not know how to communicate beyond text messages or learning about what our friends are up to with their recent tweet. Verbal communication is a dying art.
Yes you can argue that before there was even phones, we used written letters to communicate—but those were not filled with “OMG”s and “LOL”s. Unfortunately this form of socializing starts at a very young age these days. One of my mom’s day care kids has a smart phone and a Facebook page. She’s seven.
I think having the access to an infinite amount of information has made our maturity into adult hood happen much later in life. We say we are adults at the age of 18 and think we know it all and if we don’t, the information we need is usually a few clicks away. Thinking we are mature when we are not leads to bad decisions and a lot of mistakes.
We are still children on the playground, segregated into our little groups of boys and girls, afraid to talk to the other genders thing to mess around with at that age. Yes, we do interact with one another now that we are older but only on a physical plane, not on a psychological one.
People have become so dependent on their tweets, timelines, and selfies that they have forgotten about truly being themselves and being honest. Chivalry is dead and can stay dead. We need to be adults and communicate. To be open and true. Who cares if a guy opens a door for you? As long as he’s not slamming it in your face, I think you two are doing just fine as a couple as long as you are open about it.
Maybe you want your man, (or woman) to hold the door open for you or set their coat down on a wet seat. If so, tell them, if they care about you, they will comply. Don’t send ambiguous texts or break up with them over a text because it’s easier. Be a human with feelings, not faceless words.
Human beings, as far as I can tell, cannot read minds. If you’re a guy or girl, who cares who’s the first to confess. If you like someone, just tell them. At least they will know. If something like being honest ruins a friendship, then you two probably were not going to be friends for long anyway.
Oh, and if you open up to them and they still just want to be friends, don’t be the jealous d-bag and ruin a potentially good friendship. Maybe someday that person will see you in a different light or even better, you find someone even more right for you. As Steven Stills once sang, “Love the one you’re with.”
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